(Bhagavad Geeta chapter 2: 62,63)
Lord Krishna said:
When a person constantly think about objects, attachments for those object arises in the mind
From desire, anger is born
From anger comes delusion
From delusion comes to lose of memory
From the loss of memory comes the destruction of intellect
and once the intellect is destroyed, a person perishes.
Imagination is defined as, an act or power of forming a mental image; creative ability. Imagination allows the individual to escape reality for a moment and travel to another place they created that is safe and happy. For instance, some people who read stories that focus on romance may project themselves within the story. Films, television, magazines, and novels are the current avenues for cultural storytelling. Not fully realizing that one must be careful not to place emphasis on the “fantasy of the fairy-tale, for example, imagining a relationship that is always happy, with no negative aspects.
The research presented here depicted how people are affected by lofty ideals of romance that will carry over into their adult narratives and adult expectations that love is everlasting, always true, and is never negative or unhealthy.
People may wish or dream but when the fantasy does not materialize they get disappointed again by their own unconscious desires. Trying to build the perfect relationship with no flaws or betrayal and maintaining an everlasting fidelity could lead to exhaustion. As love is all about learning how to tolerate one’s inner opposites.
The person may become disenchanted with this world and demand a change thereby provoking both the male and female inner and outer worlds to erupt, resulting in chaos within the relationship. As a result, subtle suffering and loneliness will settle into the unconscious psyche of the People which may produce more pain. The pain and suffering could manifest into depression or anxiety disorder.
For example, at the beginnings of a relationship person may downplay their own needs to satisfy their partner. This could be an unconscious ongoing characteristic of the person, who may be trying to secure a committed relationship. If the dynamics within the relationship become disenchanting, each partner may want change resulting in possible confusion, disillusionment, and anger. High emotions will then be played out within the relationship possibly resulting in chaos and pain holding.
No matter in which relationship you are into but whenever expectations take place, gradually everything begins to change which definitely going to affect you in all aspects. And no matter how a person could try harder but he can never fulfills the expectations of others. So, stop expecting from others, stop imagining things, stop overthinking, stop searching for perfectionism.
if there's one piece of advice you take away from this article, it would be this:
Have the conversations you need to have with the people you are closest to. Tell them the truth. Tell them how you feel about everything — about what you want to do, where you want to work, your insecurities, how you feel about their expectations, and everything else. It will absolutely change your life. Even if they get angry and react poorly, their level of respect for you will be enormous.
IN THE WORLD OF FAKE PERFECTIONISM, BE IN LOVE WITH FLAWED REALITY.
